Michelle Obama revealed she and Barack Obama have attended couples therapy and are constantly working on their 33-year marriage.
While speaking with Alex Cooper on Wednesday’s episode of “Call Her Daddy,” the former first lady admitted to being a big “believer in therapy.”
“We’ve been in couples therapy,” Michelle, 62, said about herself and Barack, 64. “I believe in the practice of having those conversations with objective people who help you piece through that stuff, and it’s a constant, it’s constant work.”
Michelle also discussed learning early in their marriage that they cannot change each other.
“I’ve grown to know I don’t have control over him, just like he doesn’t have control over me,” she said. “So let me do my work and let him do our work and together we come together as whole people.”
“I’ve grown to know I don’t have control over him, just like he doesn’t have control over me,” she told host Alex Cooper.Call Her Daddy
She also emphasized how important it was for people to focus on self-improvement and “feeling good about [themselves].”
“Start working on your health,” the businesswoman advised. “Start feeling strong within yourself. Start practicing self-esteem. Start working on building your relationships and your friendships.
“Work on being as whole as you can be, because you can’t control who’s gonna love you, who’s gonna like you, who’s gonna give you a job, who’s gonna see you the way you wanna be seen, because everybody has their own stuff,” she continued.
At the time, Michelle was assigned to be his mentor before their relationship turned romantic.
The couple went on to tie the knot in 1992 and welcomed two daughters: Malia, 27, and Sasha, 24.
Last year, Barack and Michelle dodged split rumors after the latter opted out of attending several public events, including the funeral for President Jimmy Carter and President Trump’s inauguration, both in January 2025.
However, an insider told Page Six that Michelle “checked out” of DC after leaving the White House in January 2017.
